so here it is...there isn't a right way. there isn't a best way. there isn't an i'm better you are worse way. if every child is unique (which they are) and every mother is unique (which they are) then there are a unique combinations of mother + child. which really means, to me, that the way you parent should be determined by what works for both the mother and child. so, switch it up as you go, as you learn, and as your children are so different.